Confessions of a Not So Perfect Mom….. (or how to be like me)
I don’t brush my children’s hair in the morning, or make them do it either. I am too lazy to do that. It would involve me chasing them around the house sounding like Bill Cosby, “come here, come here, come here, come here, come here.” They walk around with permanent bed head. I am ok with that and so are they.
I will occasionally use the tv as a “babysitter”. If there is no other way that i can cook dinner without having a child strapped to my leg, I will turn on the tv. If I am not feeling well, I will turn on the tv and lay down on the couch. I don’t think it makes me a bad mom. It makes me real. And the kids really are not going to be worse for it. It is not like it is on all day. It is always PBS or Phineas and Ferb. Maybe Dr. Who. Sweetie loves Dr. Who. I love that about her.
I don’t always have a dinner plan come 5 o’clock. It is then that I turned to processed foods (with a side of hormones). I didn’t say I was proud.
I curse in front of my children.
They call me on it.
I am not always consistent. Because sometimes I simply don’t have the energy to fight one more time in a given day.
My children think I am crazy. My nephew calls me a “character.”
I honestly don’t care if my kids match their clothes. In fact, the less they match, the better. Makes them unique. If they don’t care, why should I?
My kid’s favorite thing to play with: dirt and leaves.
I have forgotten to strap my children into their car seats before I have driven some place before.
I dropped my son as an infant while sitting in a chair rocking him to sleep. I was so tired I rocked myself to sleep. My husband came running in when he heard the Wise Guy’s arm hit the base of the lamp. I hadn’t stirred. Wise Guy hadn’t either. He was still sound asleep next to the chair.
My kids will eat food off the floor. As long as it’s my floor (and is relatively clean), I don’t care. They live here. It is their germs and their mess anyway.
I am not the world’s best housekeeper. I find it harder to be a housekeeper when you are home all day (although some people would think the opposite). There are more people living in the house all day, creating a live in look to the house. Most the time the kids wear wrinkled clothes because they are pulling clean clothes out of a basket where the clothes are not folded. I can’t iron.
Most of the time I will walk into the kitchen and there will be at least one cabniet open that I forgot to close.
I honestly don’t care about making myself a fool in public. I have a very serious side, and a very silly side. I really don’t mind showing my silly side in public at all. I will skip, laugh, jump, do strange voices, sing random things loudly etc out in public. If people look at me, I certainly don’t notice. I am having fun. I am with my kids. I hope that my children keep a little bit of their childhood when they grow up and not try to be a “serious adult” all the time. One that would play with their kid, but not “be” a kid.
There are only a few mom’s that I have found that I fit in with. Most of those moms (save two), I have found on the internet and through reading blogs and have not met in real life. I hope to correct that…… someday.
I am not always happy to be a stay at home mom. There are days that I am bored out of my mind. There are days that are overwhelming. But I always love my kids, even if I want just a day to myself.
I will sometimes eat my kid’s leftovers. This is why I gained those 15 pounds.
I will occasionally catch myself saying things that I never thought I would say or use a guilt trip on my kids. You know, “and this is the thanks I get…..” kind of stuff. Again, not proud.
I love my kids and cannot promise I won’t try to follow them to college.
I also cannot promise I won’t embarass them merrilessly when they are teenagers.
Any confessions you want to share?
13 Responses to “Confessions of a Not So Perfect Mom….. (or how to be like me)”
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Great post. I love unique kids. Most of what you say resonates with me. I’m not a stay at home mom but I get to be a stay at home dad in the summer.
Here’s my confession: I use sarcasm with my kids when they do silly things. It’s amazing to see a 4 year-old using sarcasm. Proud? Kinda.
Please remember to strap your kids in. I just can’t imagine what might happen because of some other driver. I know that is “what if” but it’s one what if I’m willing to take.
BK-Teach’s last blog post..Plunge vs. Process
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I think you tore a page out of my journal and posted it on your blog! We are all to hard on ourselves and each other. Nobody is perfect and they’re lying if they think they are. Perfect is boring! Great post!
Lazy Mom Leslie’s last blog post..Mr. Mom
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My 2yo has very curly hair -think Shirley Temple, but without a curling iron. She will not easily sit still for a hairbrushing, so I usually put it up in a ponytail (like people won’t notice LOL). Tonight we went to the store and she was wearing her Hello Kitty jama top and green camo pants and pink sandles!
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I tell my kids I think they are ugly, when we all know I don’t really think so. They smile and say they wish that they had taken after their Mother.
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We should meet. Found myself nodding my head quite a bit while reading your post… My kids are happy and that is what matters to me.
Karen’s last blog post..Lily of the Valley – Black & White
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Ok – this is all me in a nutshell. Not one of these that you have on here, I don’t do or haven’t done. This post really made me feel alot better about myself. I’m a single mom and sometimes I get too down on myself. Thanks for this – it really made my day to know another mom is just like me. My confession? I say to my kids way too much, “you’re driving me nutso” – now, my 2 year old says it all of the time…proud? Sure – they learned it from me. Means they are actually listening HAHAHA
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Parenting is not an exact science and anyone who has a child would identify with your frustrations. You protect and nurture and provide many opportunities for them to learn about themselves and their world. I have never seen a perfect parenting model – I certainly wasn’t one. I watched hours of home movies last week and laughed, cried, and got warm fuzzies.
My universal advice to parents today – “hug more yell less” and “don’t make threats or promises you don’t intend to keep” “Be real, be honest, and be involved”. But you must nurture yourself enough so you have good stuff to give out. If you are running on empty it will show. You are a great parent!
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I got one too many “imperfections” as a mother. There is no such thing as a perfect mother.
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I have been known to bribe my children into good behavior with lollipops. And almost everything else on your list.
followthatdog’s last blog post..Kicking and screaming
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Love this! It sounds like life around my house. My toddler went to the store the other day in red and black track pants, an orange t-shirt, and chocolate smeared all over his face. I figure if he gets lost at least he’d be easily identifiable.
Summer’s last blog post..I’m A Crap Mom, So Sue Me
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BK: Oh, sarcasm! It is funny how much of a master my daughter is AT 5! I wonder where she gets it?
Lazy Mommy: Oh, we should meet. It is always fun to meet people not pretending to be something that they aren’t.
Khoore: That is funny. At least they get the joke.
Grammy: Thanks! You always keep me grounded.
Follow that Dog: Oh, did I forget that one. Yes, I bribe my children in all sorts of ways. Sometimes, it is the only way to make it.
Summer: Love the outfit. I sometimes will do that to my child on purpose, so that he is easy to see in a crowd. What does he care, he is 2!
Jocelyn: I know. Each mom has her own issues. But it is through this that we teach our children to be real and accept their quirks.
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I’ve never driven without strapping my kids into their carseats, but ONLY because my daughter reminds me. Otherwise I’d have done it more than once.
And I forgot my 2 1/2 month old son in the car once when I was picking my daughter up from daycare. He slept through it. The weather was mild, and I remembered him within a couple of minutes. But still, not my finest hour.
Amber’s last blog post..Perfection and Parenting
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I can relate. My house is rarely spotless. It definitely has the lived in feel to it. My laundry piled up on the couch not folded, my dishes piled up in the sink and on the counters…anyway…you have inspired me to write my own post on my blog. Thanks!
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